Today, while hiking in mountains (again no camera on me, only my phone, hence a lousy photo) with a friend, thinking about the quality of the time in my life, the question arose within me about what makes a certain moment in life a precious one. How do I evaluate whether a certain moment of my life was/is precious or not?
Locating the most valuable moments of my life is easy. Deep insights into the nature of my existence and various awakenings into the presence of now, that kept occurring in the wild meditative period of my life about 20 years ago – these moment were absolutely crucial and they are still here, with me. Being there when my kids got born, to participate in this miracle of life… Precious beyond words. All the aha moments of my life. All the magical moments of pure contact with others. Lying with my wife in bed, in tight embrace, feeling completely loved and accepted. The moments when I have managed to provide some support to somebody and was honoured to witness the sparks ignite in their eyes…
Now, when I think of these many precious moments, I can see the pattern. I believe I evaluate a moment of my life as a precious when it is either about:
- a full – and when I say full I mean full – presence here and now. When the mind stops, when the time stops, when all that can fall off actually falls off and the only thing that remains is… well, nothing, emptiness, just this…
- an open contact with another being, absolutely open, nothing in between. The flow, the connection, the union.
- the feeling that I have contributed to somebody’s life being more beautiful. When I see them shine. When I see them smile. When I feel they are taking my hand and that I have helped some needs of theirs being met. And when I feel this is meaningful to them. I guess I could also say that in these moments I feel I have given love and that this love was indeed needed and accepted. And I melt.
So, I guess, it is the presence, the openness and the free giving.
Just as simple as that.
If I start focusing my life around these three crucial attributes, I believe I should soon find myself living a very very precious life.
This feels very weird: suddenly the question of the meaning of life seems so frightenly simple and easy.